Essay from Chimezie Ihekuna

Chimezie Ihekuna

Deception 8

Divorce is Normal

          Over the years, divorce rates have been on the increase and questioned the potency of marital longevity.    Unequivocally, there has been a normalcy in noticing this uses as most homes and families have embraced this phenomenon as a way out of apparently insurmountable marital challenges. Hence, the reason ‘divorce is normal” is appreciated by most people of the world.

         However it is observed that some people marry for trivial reason and as a result of divorce for trivial reasons.    What they fail to realize is that it is one thing to get married. It is  a different ball game to stay married .      It is loosely akin to when an individual purchase a car.

         The paramount concern is not necessarily the cars purchase but the maintenance to ensuring  its fitness and value for –money recognition.    Divorce become a way out of challenges associated with staying married.

         As stated, some people get married for trivial reasons and as a result, divorce for trivial reasons.   

Therefore, we will consider the (likely) rampant reason people marry which subsequently engender divorce; an approach to tackle the challenge of staying married.  The following give the trivial reasons people marry and hence divorce

  1. Physical appearance/looks
  2. Sex / Sexuality
  3. Money/Material needs
  4. Sympathy/Generous disposition

(1)      Physical appearance/looks:- Is the expression “your dressing determines how would be addressed” true?   You would be astonished that one of the real reasons people get married is simply because of “good looks” or an appealing physical appearance of their spouse, under the guise of first-thing-that-attracted-me expression.       On the contrary, it is factual that looks are deceiving.

         The quality of character is more important than paying strict to physical appearance.

This does not mean that physical appearance or look is not necessary but must not be used as criterion or foundational recognition of marriage. If you discover that the then good looking boyfriend of yours is really a morally or sensually dirty type and the foundation of your marriage to your husband (your then boy friend) was laid as physical what would do if you cannot “stomach” his really dirty or unpreventable persona ? A divorce suit will likely be contemplated.

Sex /sexually: Some people marry due to sexual competence of their spouses. As a matter of fact ,people hose foundation of or reason for marrying is based on sexuality are arguably not sexually faithful. Consequently, based on a not – concrete marital foundation, such marring suffers set-backs. For instance, a man whose sexual Prowess was well exerted on his wife (who married   him primarily because of his sexuality:  sexual power) declines will undoubtedly be perturbed ; the suspicion that his wife long for sexual gratification from competent individuals is crystal clear .

         There is a case of divorce suit fired by a comer on the grounds of the size of her husband’s manhood she complained bitterly that his cannot be satisfied action.

(2) Money/material needs: Deception 5 explains the fact that money and other material needs are man-made invention which are subject to transient conditions. Arguably, most ladies base their marital limelight on the recognition of money. Material needs and money has become rampant in the notion of young men and women in their vices on a successful marriage. In other words, people hare used the yardstick, money to as certain the longevity and success of marriage. Unfortunately, the is a marriage as unforeseen setbacks have unarguably eaten deep into the tenets  of many marriage ,despite immense financial and material availability .If you lay the foundation of marriage on money, how would you cope with your marriage if there is as alarming financial downturn that will eventually affect your husband’s financial position ? would you not ponder as alternative divorce ? Only time will tell!

Sympathy -: the most concrete foundation of any successful marriage is true lover. However, people marry on sympathetic grounds —- based on socio –cultural conditions.

         There was a particular case of a lady raised in a family subjugated by abject poverty, who went through the thick and thin to secure her way in the university. Luckily for her, she fell in love with a dashing young man from a well –to- do family. They got to know each other better and subsequently decided to be intimate a relationship was set up. Knowing her background, he felt compassion for her and vowed  to marry her after their academic years as the university ,since they were level mates. Unknown to him, she portrayed a camouflage behaviors to realize her long – awaited dream — parting away with his opulence at the long run. Really, their relationship thrived from the hard nut to the lengthy years of follow-ups; commitment and sacrifices, despite strong opposition to the fruiting period of marital bliss. Without a doubt ,it was a red letter day to both parties as they were in a state of euphoria. Celebrated by every Tom, Dick   and Harry  that attended the talk –of-the-town occasion, the couple was decorated with different gifts, words of exhortation and congratulatory remarks . For the next five years, the couple was living a happy life of marriage as both parties gave in their “all” and help each other in every aspect they recognized .The ugly truth which he never anticipated was that she had been strategizing a not- easy-to –suspect strategy to abscond with his opulence, no thanks to her “chameleonized” good behaviour. Finally the deed was done but did not succeed absconding, though she had en massed his wealth to her private account (an account he never knew until he was told).To save herself from further embarrassment, she sued him for a divorce. Though she did not get to have a share in her husband’s assets. She eventually got what she wanted-a divorce and the transferred money

Similarly, most people who marry in the recognition of generous disposition end up abruptly settling for divorce, since they realize the difficulties in put up with their excesses in the pursuit of staying married. Celebrities, politicians, captains of industry, acclaimed religious scholars and leaders and even the common people are seldom victims of the consequence faced generous disposition. Because she selflessly showered her generosity towards you, should  this be reason for your marrying  her? Unfortunately, people do marry for this reason.

Divorcees claim the reason they divorce is because they married wrong partner. Why the  “wrong” partner? Someone with his right senses when sieving (separating the grains from the chaffs) must be sagacious and patient to get the anticipated. Else, the result will obviously be unpleasant. In the same vein, this is the case of divorces who claim to have been married to wrong partners. To such people, this is an advice: Find your wife or husband in a number of women or men.

 Consequently, divorce has crippled the efficacy and importance of a family as the nation’s building block, truncated parent-children relationship, encouraged juvenile delinquencies, promiscuity and other forms of moral decadence. “Sufferers” of divorce situations especially children are said to be on the loosing side of parental affection and grow up as adults with dysfunctional psyche and potential threats to the society. Divorcees are generally restricted from eminent positions of service to the society. For instance, if an individual wants to be a governor in  the  U .S .he or she must have his or her marital status read “married “ with proven evidences of a good home and presence of the mentioned spouse. Let us Zero in on this instance. If divorce is normal, why won’t you be allowed to contest as a Governor in the U.S.( Remember, the U.S. is loosely believed by people in third world countries as a nation where there is an alarming divorce rate)?

Poetry from Michael Lee Johnston

Unknown Poet in Rue Montpelier
Cracker Jack Box Poem

I don’t wear my pocket watch anymore
it reminds me of my age, 73,
soon more,
outdated gadget, time hanging where
moving parts below don’t belong nor work anymore.
I don’t like to think about endings.
Age is a Cracker Jack box with no face,
modern speed dial,
no toy inside, when it stops, no salute, just pops. 
Lesson:  “What young men want to do all night
takes older men all night to do.” 

South Chicago Night   
Night is drifters,
sugar rats, street walkers, pickpockets,
pimps,insects, Lake Michigan perch,
neon signs blinking half the bulbs
burned out. 

Young Couple-@ Heart Attack Greasy Grill 
I was a little boy,
tad hillbilly son,
patterned then in present tense,
hardly old enough
tall enough to work
nor notice if I had pubic hair
-large or small endowment
growing up self-conscious
about short comings
narrow chest. 
Just a teen aged nighttime boy
looking 4 a part-time hook up-little girl play,
with a five-card stud. 
Preacher daddy raised me, back-seat Christian boy
low on faith high on doobie rolled cigarettes. 
I took my 1st job, pancake flipper@ Heart Attack–Greasy Grill,
24-7pocket coins 4 tips, a few greasy dollars,
pancake short stack, secret menu was that
boss’s daughter, blood on hands,my bun busted now stale,
stained, & baked.
Eliminate lines unessential:
waitress injected me some spice
old time recipe. 

Unknown Poet from Rue Montpelier 
I warned you darts with advice
strong words tripping over emotions
like an imbecile-
so you think you’re Leonard Cohen
loving some naked Nancy in a cluttered
matchbox apartment overlooking
European culture simulated, above some obscure narrow
Montreal street? For your information,
straight poetics from insanities Almanac,
Leonard Cohen died years ago
in a twisted pickle poem he entitled “Narcissism.” 
Do you and your welfare lover
desire to be the 2nd generation,
deceased, unnoticed, unheard of,
unwarranted for failure artists
inside this thin, onion-skinned wall dingy with your dreams?
I warned you darts with advice,tapering off with your impotence. 



Michael Lee Johnson lived 10 years in Canada during the Vietnam era and is a dual citizen of the United States and Canada.  Today he is a poet, freelance writer, amateur photographer, and small business owner in Itasca, Illinois.  Mr. Johnson published in more than 1092 new publications, his poems have appeared in 39 countries, he edits, publishes 10 poetry sites.  Michael Lee Johnson, has been nominated for 2 Pushcart Prize awards poetry 2015/1 Best of the Net 2016/2 Best of the Net 2017, 2 Best of the Net 2018.
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Ronald Primeau reviews Carol Smallwood’s collection Patterns: Moments in Time

Patterns: Moments in Time by Carol Smallwood

Over 200 years ago, William Wordsworth thought poetry was “emotion recollected in tranquility.”  More recently in “An Argument with Wordsworth” Wendy Cope has observed that while there is plenty of emotion to go around, “there’s a serious shortage of tranquility in which to recollect it.” (Cope’s poem is included in a collection of responses made by female poets to male-dominant perspectives over time—The Muse Strikes Back: A Poetic Response by Women to Men, eds., Katherine McAlpine and Gail White, Story Line Press, 1997). In many volumes of fine poetry Carol Smallwood has taken up the challenges faced by poets who wish they could eek out at least some tranquil time, and she has found great power in her observation of everyday experiences. In her latest collection, Patterns: Moments in Time, she not only stirs powerful emotions but fulfills Wordsworth’s famous goal to present “ordinary things” to the mind “in an unusual aspect.” Smallwood’s poems re-create ordinary events, places, and experiences for her readers who then find or make even more new patterns through closer observation and sharpened imagination.

The structure of this collection bookends the variety of the many ways it is possible to see in fresh ways what we already experience nearly every day. The Prologue sets the stage for how even a day’s most monotonously ordinary events can be imprinted with fresh and lasting imagery. In “Driving into Town,” pine trees that have fallen into snow become “filled green cellophane toothpicks/ next to slim bare-limbed trees/ as if at a cocktail party” (17).  Will that allow you to take an ordinary drive without perking up ever again? Nothing fancy on this morning drive or in the stop at the car wash where a routine customer becomes a “strange woman driver” and “green hula girl plastic strips rotated/ warm water streams each side the/long empty fogged car wash tunnel’—at last tossing the car out of the tropic back into the snow “to make a solitary track of white” (23). Routine car washes are over. “Grandmother Said” transforms the most routine needle-and-thread hours into creative energy that renews the earth.  The oldest doll in the collection, Betsy is “entirely fine” as she sits resiliently for so long “as an anchor and a lifeline” (89). The penultimate poem in the volume, “Rain Began Hitting the Window,” begins by quoting T. S. Eliot’s “Four Quartets”: “We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will be to arrive where we started and know the place for the first time.” With memories flooding in, the rain brings the speaker closer to the knowledge and acceptance that we will become part of the soil we love with Aunt Hester who would “see I wore Clorox-clean underwear” and Uncle Walt who would somewhere still be saying “I got a wife who would bleach the hell out of the robes of God Almighty” (99).  Of course the earth spins, the wind blows and the house wraps itself around all that is folded into the earth—and it all comes back around again as if new: “As part of the soil—my exploration just begun, I’d know for the very first time” (100).  A prototypical pattern of whirling cumulus clouds brings the challenge of the “Epilogue” to choose one cloud “to secure the secret of time and space” (103).

Formally, the villanelle is the perfect poetic pattern to circle around and back to the place one started: renewed, surprised, refreshed. Repeating rhymes and refrains set off on a quest that meanders through new places, yet winds its back at the starting point with the freshness of shifting perspective and context. It’s the persistence and musical patterns that “language” their way to penetrating insights while always seeming to circle back and yet deeper into what is seen and felt to be effervescently fresh. “A Villanelle for Betsy” is vintage Smallwood. The poem revisits a very old doll with a cracked head who, we learn, has been for some time “an anchor, an unfailing lifeline” (89). She sits patiently through all.  She sits proudly through the patterns of repetition that reinforce resolve that is known to be “entirely fine.” “The Wonder Spot” examines an educational tourist spot unlike any other on earth that takes us beyond school bringing change that we become convinced is “undeniable” (29). Another breakthrough to what is remarkable in the mundane is “Grandmother Said” where the best uses of a needle and thread turnout to be staving off loneliness (69).

The villanelle follows rules exactly as does “the way to row” in a “tradition set long ago” (21).  Without any doubt “It is the Rule,” (“A Matter of Rowing,” 21). Ambiguity receives its charge from understanding through rules “how many ways” something can be read (“Ambiguity,” 87). “Hopscotch” where the chalk marks seem indelible, impervious, defies the rules swishing forward “with no thought/of rain—or tomorrow” (48). “A Mainstay” holds on to the rules of hard-cover book publishing, now challenged for so long and ever widely by new forms.  Asked because its girth and weight almost no longer fits if the volume is her bible, the speaker treasures her disheveled work of art, pining that “all books would last, match the quality, continue a mainstay´(19).  Some rules even bring comfort, and when disturbed anxiety follows. “A lack of sleep encourages awareness in the safety of predictability,” the wise speaker reflects; there is fear of the unknown and worries about civility and predictability and a new respect for all that we take for granted—appreciated most when threatened or disrupted (“Safety of Predictability,” 68).  In one more example, a trip to the grocery store celebrates the defining powers of counting and naming in adherence to or defiance of the ubiquitous rules.  Not everyone pauses to observe “which aisle had the strongest overhead fan,” how many brands of Extra Virgin Olive Oil there are to choose from, or feel like an honored guest given precious “time to bask among the plastic plates, marshmallows, and feel proud” (“Shopping Today, 96).

Most of Smallwood’s collections of poems have suggested ways that we can experience more fully what happens just about every day. More than any other, this book looks to individual moments in time to explore the processes through which we recognize patterns already there, create new ones through creative sensibility, and learn how the processes of engagement make us more alive. Quilting pieces recall earlier moments and then themselves become new moments in “a war fought by women with a needle” emerging as a new creation “the next day fresh as a primrose” (“Shallow Boxes,” 27). The book’s Midwestern roots win out as the moments are meant to savor the essence of each seasonal change, building memories that create pattern (“The Seasons,” 40). Savor also the ambiguity of trees “reflected upside down in puddles on my way to school” or puzzling over the syntactical puzzle of how many ways we can read “Sam blew up the door” (“Ambiguity,” 37). Does it matter, many of the poems ask. Are the patterns already there, wherever “there” is, or do we make the patterns “there” or later through memory and imaginative reshaping?  It matters in “Stop Look Listen” when a “sleek red car with large letters NASCAR” turns out to be “NURSECARE with someone flicking a cigarette out the driver’s window” (26). Memories of the nun who uses nonsense to retool becomes profound through proud incantation: “I recall it” (“An Unlikely Introduction,” 41).

Moments in Time is an unobtrusively great book that will sneak up on you, wear well on the coffee table, stay with you, and change the way you experience much that happens every day. Smallwood springs us from some of the traps even good writers and readers can fall into.  In Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, Robert M. Pirsig has suggested in a well-known quote: “We take a handful of sand from the endless landscape of awareness and we call that handful of sand the world.” The poems in Patterns would be happy if we were grabbing any sand at all instead of dozing, but each poem asks us to look closely at what the sand is, how it got in our hands, and how and why we name it the way we do.

This large and roomy collection never loses its focus on the many ways we make moments in time that flourish in memory and last a lifetime. In “Select Moments,” the speaker lies flat in the making-angels-in-the-snow position feeling for movement in the rhythms of life itself, hoping for clues to “what it was all about” and trusting that the moments would make sense: “Surely if I stood tall as possible/ Long enough, tried hard enough/ there’d come hints, some pattern.” And so this long and packed volume meanders patiently to the prologue of cumulus clouds where a focus on one single cloud hopes to “secure the secret of time and space (103).

Faults in the book? Always—but maybe just flawed enough to secure the genuine aesthetic pleasure that requires some imperfection.  The collection might be repetitious at times; some poems maybe try too hard.  Long time Smallwood fans might be disappointed that some poems are reprised from early publication. But the moments that wobble also become part of the haunting and satisfying patterns we carry with us from our reading. Puzzlement, ambiguity, surprises, and the ordinary stuff of an otherwise sleepy afternoon—everything feels just a little less ordinary. The structure of the collection matches the unfolding of renewal steaming out of memories. The feel of the book in one’s hands seems right, the typeset and pristine editing, the soft beauty of the cover design—all these are the work of a Lifetime Achievement Award winner who has much yet in the making.

Ronald Primeau

Professor of English Emeritus, Central Michigan University

Adjunct Instructor, University of South Florida Sarasota-Manatee

Carol Smallwood’s Patterns: Moments in Time is available from Word Publishing here.

Elizabeth Hughes’ Book Periscope

The Raven’s Daughter by Peggy A. Wheeler

Peggy Wheeler’s The Raven’s Daughter

The Raven’s Daughter by Peggy A. Wheeler is yet another exciting winner. This novel is suspense horror and has a bit of the supernatural. This will grab your full attention from the first page to the last and have your adrenaline going into overtime.

Tall Bear Sloan is half Native American and half Irish. She is retired from law enforcement but has worked with the Wicklow Sheriff’s Department in the past as a consultant. When twins start disappearing and turn up murdered, Jake, the Sheriff and Maggie’s very good friend, goes to Maggie and begs her to help in solving the case. At first Maggie will not do it, but eventually she relents. Maggie has dreams that become all too real, and she tries to find explanations for them. Maggie does not believe in anything supernatural or in ghosts. She believes there is always a logical explanation for events that happen.

The dreams Maggie is having now have to do with her destiny and Ravens. The dreams seem to be visions, and she finally accepts that there might be something to her dreams. This book will truly keep you on the edge of your seat and have your adrenaline pumping all the way through. When you think you have it figured out, there is a twist that will surprise you. As with all of Peggy A. Wheeler’s books, this book will captivate you and have you wanting more. This would be perfect for older teens to adults. I absolutely loved it and highly recommend it.

Peggy Wheeler’s The Raven’s Daughter is available here.

Poetry from Ahmad Al-Khatat

The Drunk Poem

Ahmad Al-Khatat

I am the drunk poem without rhymes
the bartender asks how I am still surviving
I tell him that I never listen to my heart
but I hear to the voice of my loneliness

I talk less about my miserable life
but when I am drunk, I colour the darkness
and ignore the clouds of my journey
I lie to death when I ask for another chance

The musician plays with a passion
the singer sings with a fine pleasure
the poet writes with crying eyes, and with
a spirit dancing between the lines of the drunk poem

Love will be always arising in my head
if a woman comes to my soundless attention
I will be happy for a temporary moment
I will fly her to my fantasies above the island of peace

I’d Rather Be Alone

I’d rather be alone
then talking to double
-face people I meet
those people will stab-
me until I die on my tears

I’d rather be alone
take my gadgets away
give me a low-cost coffin
I am not physically tired
but mostly emotionally tired

I’d rather be alone
I can’t fly from my sadness
my heart is broken from the
-cage of Baghdad sorrows
the door is open and I’m drunk

I’d rather be alone
waiting to autumn to farewell
-more dreams under the dust
I cried more than a wounded
warrior who will slaughter me

Growing Up

Growing up
we learn more
about the mistakes
we had made before

the only difference
you tend to smile more
than I do, with your wounds
above my sensitive open cuts

you walk into the sunlight
and I run by the blowing leaves
It’s crazy how much love does
I miss you even if we just kissed

Growing up in your eyes
It’s a dream that can be found
anywhere near your breathe
let the people behind me and

-enlighten me on my imaginations
to draw a path that will be the best
map to own you, far from everything
dark, cloudy, or that cause you to cry

My New Bio

Ahmad Al-Khatat was born in Baghdad, Iraq. His work has appeared in print and online journals globally and has poems translated into several languages. He has been nominated for Best of the Net 2018. He is the author of The Bleeding Heart Poet, Love On The War’s Frontline, Gas Chamber, Wounds from Iraq, and Roofs of Dreams. He lives in Montreal, Canada.

Mixed media from Daniel DeCulla

THE VIXEN WALKS TO CRICKETS

AND THE PRIESTS TO THE KIDS’ EGGS

The horde of farmers, ranchers and hunters

Are  called  as tradition of the past kaffirs and cannibals

Marching in a demonstration in Madrid, Spain

In defense, as they sing, from the rural environment.

What a deception! What a lie! What a great fallacy!

Clothed by the geese of the parties

That go out to the path of that place and another place

for killing the boar or the wolf, and thus get votes

Bring to my memory what they taught us under a canopy:

“That the hunting and bullfighting are peace and money

For the whole year”.

What a pity that fields are being rented to kill

And sand circles to kill bulls.

And they say, with the big mouth of Gullible Balls

That defend the rural environment, and things to kill

Because these are goods of profit

For certain damage of the cattle.

Poor Mother Earth! Poor living beings, and species!

How would I like to dip into a bag of green almonds

As it was done in Andalusia, the high and low

In both Castilles and in all its peripheries

Taking out the green almonds one by one

Throwing them at the head

So that all those idiots and drunkards

Who believe everything

As they say John Templado did

That gentleman went in his bag for blocks and pens

And for all the towns and villages of the Iberian Peninsula.

How I would like to go back to what really sticks

In defense and love of Mother Earth

Her species and animals.

I remember what an old woman told me

In the market of Barley

Where she sold fresh eggs; who was very hurt

By the poorly-managed farmers

Who took advantage of the hunt

And  threw their money on the floor of the bullring:

– Son, before Life was a bunch of green bouquet

And a white folded linen cloth.

Women milked the Donkeys

The men gave their milk to suckers and piglets.

We ate from the fruit that helps eat.

There were no banderillas to kill

Or hunting rifles to kill.

The vixen walking to crickets, and no –one priest

walked from door to door, to the kids’ eggs.

Justice hovered in Love and Freedom

And the thieves deranged at the wrong time.

Today, however, poor Mother Earth!

More wicked is the son than the father.

Do not do the same.

 Love the Sun and the Moon

Better is before tan later.

-Daniel de Culla

Poetry from Mark Young

Paging Darwin

An internal investigation into
the goanna’s supply chain

reveals that the widely-held
belief that its hierarchy of IT-

related capabilities functions
using three dimensions of inte-

gration is not only wrong but it is,
overall, a far less efficient reptile

than the similarly-named but un-
related inhabitants of Central &

South America plus some isolated
islands off the coast of Ecuador.

Through the eyes

The council were looking both
to compensate & to provide
the government with evidence

that their project could be made
legitimate & would make some-
body a lot of money. None of it

was real. That seemed obvious
to me & I was only eight years
old. No-one else seemed to notice.

An existing location can no longer be displayed

A clear understanding of electrolyte
characteristics within the existing
student population, with the fragment

sizes generated by current DNA & capable
of producing next-generation residential
expansion, has been the focus of urban

planners seeking to identify a single
source of truth that includes check in/check
out capabilities & specialist spare parts.

Rotation

Choosing to walk this way
though other paths are easier.
In with the old, even if the
futures market seems to pre-
dict that genetically modified
crops are the way to grow.

But where will the money come
from? For the poor especially
it does not grow on trees that
do not grow. Landscapes of
drought or flood, playing fields

where insurgents surge to preach
religious intolerance. Nothing
gets through. A single variant
good – if that’s the term – for a
single season since new seeds need
to be bought to plant another crop.